tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post7636305340480400179..comments2009-11-15T18:19:59.285-05:00SOLOMONSYDELLEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17564768670896215900noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-63543529130541198562008-01-20T00:53:00.000-05:002008-01-20T00:53:00.000-05:00I find his comment hurtful. I just started university in America, and I have heard things that make my ears burn and that I never dreamt I would hear in my life. A guy that I had a massive crush on, was newly dating, and that I thought liked me suddenly opened his mouth one day and said "Oh, I would never go to Africa, have you seen Blood Diamond? The people there are so dirty and scary looking and everything is dirty. If I ever found myself there, I wouldn't eat anything or drink or touch anything, and I would carry a huge bottle of hand sanitizer with me all the time."<BR/><BR/>As you can image, I was stunned speechless. <BR/><BR/>A second before he said that I couldn't stop looking at his golden Aruban skin and loose black curls. By the time he had finished speaking, he was the ugliest thing in the world to me. I collected my clothes without a word and left, and spent the rest of the night in the shower trying to scrub his filth off me.Sugabellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17943638849867603413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-76799301690219567582008-01-16T10:28:00.000-05:002008-01-16T10:28:00.000-05:00Hmm...Quite honestly I've heard people say that. I think that in order to understand this particular author's preference, we have to look at his relationships, on differnt levels, with Nigerian women. Perhaps he has been abused in a number of ways by Nigerian women or come in contact with certain Nigerian women. Who knows. At one point, I shared the same sentiment, though not as severe. I came to find out that I was only lying to myself. When people know each other quite well, as Nigerian women and men, seem to, it can be a source of hatred. Go figure. But, to stoop to the level of this blogger, there are a multitude of attractive (intelligent, sexy et al) women in & out of Nigeria. So he would have to provide further details in order to qualify his statement. Only then, can we begin to have useful debate.Mightynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-38599888684936986422008-01-10T05:13:00.000-05:002008-01-10T05:13:00.000-05:00...as we like it. <BR/>I can't marry an albino. <BR/>I can't marry pure white.<BR/>I can't marry....<BR/>all choices we are entitled to but, in making choices (& speaking) we ought to be cautious so as not to to heard wrongly. Or give the impression of labeling a people (as in this case) as been not right.<BR/>While i respect the guys opinion (personal it is & entitled to it), i do hope he insinuates not that the Nigerian woman is the worst of the lot?rethotshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09863776336604295843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-42069311319097433562007-11-26T15:21:00.000-05:002007-11-26T15:21:00.000-05:00@ Pamelastitch: Oh my. How I met my husband is a very funny story. I think I'll put it up at my ...Easier... blog someday.<BR/><BR/>I agree with you, the most important factor in any relationship, regardless or national/cultural origin is RESPECT. I hope that people will understand that. Love is important, of course, but Respect will get a couple through the tough moments. Thanks for reading this old post!SOLOMONSYDELLEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17564768670896215900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-55096944214100721582007-11-26T06:49:00.000-05:002007-11-26T06:49:00.000-05:00hmmm....<BR/><BR/>To a certain extent, if you are someone who appreciates difference, it might be difficult to date amongst your own. The key is being with someone who respects you as a person, your culture and I repeat respects YOU as a person.<BR/><BR/>My gosh: I always thought you were married to a Nigerian. Abeg..how did you meet... Gist me!!pamelastitchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01169821738730404639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-65412608077353025222007-05-25T13:56:00.000-04:002007-05-25T13:56:00.000-04:00@ Linda O.: Hear Hear! judging people without knowing them will nly get us nowhere. Thanks for the words of wisdom. Please stop by often!SOLOMONSYDELLEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17564768670896215900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-76895537352082084352007-03-27T18:50:00.000-04:002007-03-27T18:50:00.000-04:00Everyone has a right to their own opinions. But to hurt, demean and prejudge others is wrong.<BR/>If I had prejudged my husband for being a Nigerian, I would have missed out on a wonderful husband. <BR/><BR/>Only God can judge, because He sees to the core of a person's heart.Linda Onoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-28155097422700753062007-02-20T14:49:00.000-05:002007-02-20T14:49:00.000-05:00I am glad that you are in a fulfilling marriage with a Nigerian. And, I agree with your take, "What is good for the goose may not be good for the gander."<BR/><BR/>At the end of the day, we are all entitled to our preferences. Thanks for stopping by and hope to see you again soon.SOLOMONSYDELLEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17564768670896215900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-85881135006039439322007-02-20T04:31:00.000-05:002007-02-20T04:31:00.000-05:00Well, to each his own. What is good for the goose may not be good for the gander. I'm married to a Nigerian and loving it.Calabar Galhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16033736249905118938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1259678905729324935.post-57253220877985332092007-01-23T09:47:00.000-05:002007-01-23T09:47:00.000-05:00All I can say is that the guy is blind.Non-nigerian mannoreply@blogger.com